The Online Era – Article – 1

In 2019, my world stopped spinning. My husband left me after 23 years together – more than half of my life. I was beyond broken. What was I going to do? Who was I without him? What was my purpose? These are HUGE questions that define us. So, obviously, instead of fiercely re-examining my life – I turned to online dating.
I met a plethora of unique men and had a few (dozen) disastrous dates. Some of these men actively deceived me. Some were liars…others were catfish. Some ghosted me for weeks…others messaged constantly. Some were admittedly ‘unavailable’ while others were hunting for a soul mate. Sounds fabulous, right? So, let’s get you started!
First – join a dating app. Create a catchy username and write an interesting (yet mostly true) bio that intrigues your audience. Next – shamelessly promote yourself. Take at least one misleading selfie from the best angle possible in near perfect lighting. Finally – whiten your teeth with a filter so bright that they blind the masses.
You can now start browsing matches! You can weed people out based on height, smoker status, income and other useless variables. You can ‘swipe right’ based solely on physical appearance – essentially window shopping for your next mate. You will sift through an infinite number of profiles cringing at the photos that people think are flattering. You will die a thousand deaths when you see profiles of family members, coworkers and friends. You will rarely match with anyone. You will look for your proverbial ‘needle in a haystack’ until your vision is permanently blurred. You will do this for about a month and then give up – deleting your profile and the app forever.
But – what IF? What if your perfect match is out there… patiently waiting? What if they are lost in a sea of catfish looking for you? Do you have faith in the process… and can you trust that the universe delivers everything you deserve in divine timing?
Breathe. Modern love is NOT for the faint of heart.