Article 28

Moving on is not always easy. In fact, it’s a daily challenge.
I have come to terms with the fact that I need to end my contact with Mike completely. He was my closest friend. He was the first person I spoke to every day, as well as the last. I shared intimate feelings, hopes and dreams with him – so purposely pulling back is foreign. In my heart though, I know it’s best for both of us.
Supporting him as a friend is only leading him on. It is giving him false hope and blurring the boundaries I am desperately trying to keep. My therapist recommended “zero contact” and I was adamant that he was wrong. But it is too painful for him and dragging out the inevitable. This needs to end for us both to heal and it has taken me a couple of weeks to admit that we cannot be friends.
Some people are not meant to stay in our lives forever. Their presence is temporary and fleeting and can be full of joy or heartache. I have learned so much about myself since meeting Mike in 2019. He showed me that I am worthy and strong and irreplaceable. I give grace when it is due – but hold people accountable. I am kind and generous – but not naïve. I have a spark in my soul that will someday ignite a flame in the right person.
Our journey has come to an end – but I do not regret one moment with him. Life is about learning and growing. It is climbing the peaks and surviving the valleys without looking back. It is swimming in the darkest depths without fearing what lies beneath.
My advice today? Remember to have faith in your journey – you are right where you need to be.